Am I really that selfish

Went out for dinner with a group of friends the other night. Invited a very casual acquaintance whom I know to be a talented musician. Talk turned to the rehablitation of prisoners, and on to how prison would be, and whether we could survive a prison sentence. Their was some rather heated discussion at which point, the musician, shockingly, burst into tears and stormed out. Turns out her brother is doing 30 years for murder.
And all I can think is, does this mean i can't ask her to listen to my song.
My genetic material has a bug in it.